Wedding Expectations Gone Wrong: Bride Insists Guests Pay Their Own Way

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Are you ready for a wild ride into the world of wedding planning gone wrong? Then, get ready to hear about a bride causing quite a stir with her outrageous demands for her guests.

Expectations Gone Wrong

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These days, people have all sorts of wild expectations surrounding their wedding day, but this story takes the cake.

Is She Deserving of the Title of Bridezilla?

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This bride, affectionately referred to as a “Bridezilla,” is expecting her guests to foot the bill for their dinner plates and the wedding venue. It’s a move causing quite an uproar, and many people question what is appropriate regarding wedding etiquette. Let me take you through the details of this story.

Unexpected Wedding Invitation

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A woman we’ll call Sarah received an unexpected wedding invitation from an old university fellow. The two hadn’t spoken in two years, as the acquaintance had cut off all her single friends, claiming she was “too good” for them and could only have engaged or married friends.

An Invite with a Bill?

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Upon receiving the invitation, she noticed that at the bottom of the invite was a bill for $400 to pay for the venue and an additional $150 for the meal. In the area where she resides, it is typically the responsibility of the bride and groom or their family to pay for the venue and food, not the guests.

Was She Singled Out?

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The acquaintance had also invited 20 people, all visible in the “send all” part of the email, and it was clear that she was being invited solely to help cover the cost of the wedding. Sarah felt it was disrespectful and insensitive, especially considering the previous falling out between the two.

Thanks, But No Thanks!

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So she declined the invitation and later received a message from the bride inquiring about the decline. Sarah explained that it was not financially possible to pay for the wedding. Mutual friends later disclosed that the bride only invited her as a final option.

Was She Only Invited to Meet Venue Minimums?

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The venue required a minimum number of guests for a discount, and the bride needed help finding enough attendees. The bride’s fiancé also had many friends, who she felt overshadowed her own, and she wanted more people there for her.

Was She Right to Be Offended?

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Sarah insisted the bride’s actions were selfish and thoughtless and that it was impossible to rekindle the relationship. She notes that you can only reap the benefits of a relationship if you put in the effort to maintain it. “You cannot harvest bare fruit from a tree you never watered.” Is she right? Here’s how the internet responded.

Many Wouldn’t Pay $550 To Attend Anyone’s Wedding.

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Many expressed shock and disbelief at the request to pay $550 to attend a wedding, stating that they wouldn’t even consider paying such an amount for someone they liked, let alone someone they hadn’t spoken to in two years. One further noted that if a couple cannot afford their wedding, they should not expect others to contribute financially.

Reply All

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Another suggested that Sarah should hit reply all on the email and ask, “Who the heck invites someone to a wedding after telling them two YEARS ago that we can no longer be friends because ‘I can only have engaged friends now’… then dares to invoice me $550 to be a guest at their event? No. I’m not attending. And, send all!”

Only for a Close Friend

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One user shared that they paid around $300 to attend a wedding, noting that the expense was primarily for a new outfit as they had yet to wear formal attire in years. They stated that they would only consider paying for the meal if it was for a close friend and made it clear that they would not pay for the venue if they were simply guests.

Never Heard of This

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Finally, many in the thread confessed that they had never heard of charging your guests to attend the wedding. However, one noted, “There’s an unwritten rule that guests should give equivalent to cover the meal and drinks, maybe a little more.” Still, no one thought charging guests $550 to attend was reasonable. “Did she still expect gifts too?”

Understanding Wedding Costs

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Recognize that hosting a wedding can be expensive. However, the burden should not fall on the guests. If budget constraints are a concern, consider cost-effective alternatives like reducing the guest list, choosing a less expensive venue, or opting for a buffet over a sit-down dinner.

Importance of Clear Communication

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Communicate any out-of-the-ordinary requests or expectations tied to the invitation clearly and respectfully. However, asking guests to bear the cost of the wedding is generally considered inappropriate.

Respecting Relationships

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Invite someone to a wedding to acknowledge the relationship you share, not as a means to meet guest requirements or offset costs.

Gracious Declination

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If a guest cannot attend a wedding for any reason, including cost, decline the invitation gracefully and promptly, allowing the host to adjust their plans accordingly.

What do you think? Was this Redditor right to be offended, or do you understand sending a bill to your wedding guest list to attend?

This article was inspired by Reddit and does not necessarily reflect the views of The Budget Savvy Bride.

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