{"id":205473,"date":"2023-11-14T14:00:00","date_gmt":"2023-11-14T19:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/msn.thebudgetsavvybride.com\/?p=205473&preview=true&preview_id=205473"},"modified":"2023-11-14T10:30:48","modified_gmt":"2023-11-14T15:30:48","slug":"our-boomer-parents-have-no-concept-of-wedding-costs-theyre-pressuring-us-to-overspend","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/msn.thebudgetsavvybride.com\/our-boomer-parents-have-no-concept-of-wedding-costs-theyre-pressuring-us-to-overspend\/","title":{"rendered":"Our Boomer Parents Have No Concept of Wedding Costs; They’re Pressuring Us to Overspend!"},"content":{"rendered":"

Picture this: a couple deeply in love, armed with a budget of $2,000, and a simple desire to gather their favorite people, loads of booze, and delicious snacks for a day of celebration. Sounds perfect, right? Well, that’s what our protagonist thought until their boomer parents stepped into the scene.<\/p>\n

Enter the Boomer Bridezillas<\/h2>\n
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In a twist fit for a rom-com, our dear couple’s parents have morphed into full-blown bridezillas, seemingly stuck in a time warp where wedding costs are but a distant memory. They can’t wrap their heads around nontraditional venues, online dress shopping, or the concept of a relaxed, non-sit-down dinner affair. And when it comes to the guest list, brace yourself, because the in-laws are pushing for a 200-guest extravaganza!<\/p>\n

When Generosity Comes with Strings Attached<\/h2>\n
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Amidst the chaos, a glimmer of hope emerges when the mother of the bride steps in with a generous offer of $5,000 to ease the financial burden. While many might think the bride and groom should be grateful and surrender to some parental wishes, little do they know the pitfalls of this well-intentioned assistance.<\/p>\n

The Illusion of a Pinterest-Perfect Wedding<\/h2>\n
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With dollar signs in her eyes, the mother envisions a Pinterest-worthy affair, where money seems to grow on trees. Alas, reality crashes the party, reminding her that even $7,000 can’t magically transform their budget into a fairytale wedding with all the traditional bells and whistles.<\/p>\n

A BBQ in a Parking Lot? No Problem!<\/h2>\n
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Amidst the parental pressure, our protagonist remains grounded and unyielding in their commitment to keep the wedding small, simple, and stress-free. After all, who needs a grand ballroom when you can have a delightful barbeque in a parking lot?<\/p>\n

The Struggle of Financial Peer Pressure<\/h2>\n
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In a world where the parents are more accustomed to lavish luxuries, our couple finds themselves entangled in a sticky web of financial peer pressure. Will they stand strong or give in to the pressure to splurge?<\/p>\n

Engaging the Internet: The Great Wedding Budget Debate<\/h2>\n
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Of course, the internet exploded with suggestions for our savvy couple. Read on for responses from commenters on the Reddit thread. One said, “A $5000 contribution isn’t worth it if you have to spend more than the $5000 to fulfill your mom’s vision. It also isn’t worth it if it results in a celebration that isn’t reflective of you as a couple.”<\/p>\n

Things Don’t Cost What They Used To<\/h2>\n
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Many commenters encouraged the OP to share today’s real life costs to set their mindsets straight. “Money just doesn\u2019t go as far as it used to and they probably need a reality check! Have you shared any quotes with them from vendors? May help them understand so they can level their expectations,” one said. Another chimed in, “Honestly, show her a quote from an expensive venue.”<\/p>\n

Others suggested that they truly just don’t understand and they need to be educated, saying, “If I were you I\u2019d get a bunch of quotes and show your mom so she understands. She doesn\u2019t seem to be coming from a bad place.”<\/p>\n

Yet another commenter shared, “Wedding costs are obscene!!! Did you tell them catering alone no drinks costs at least $100 pp? Anytime you mention a wedding, the price triples.”<\/p>\n

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Give Your Mom Something Else to Focus On<\/h2>\n
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Some commenters suggested making other wedding memories with her mom. “Maybe your mom wants some of those wedding mom memories as she\u2019s probably dreaming of. Maybe go dress shopping with her, and she can see you try on some dresses and she can pick out her mother of the bride dress so the sales person will be happy.”<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

They Just Don’t Get It<\/h2>\n
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Others seemed a bit more hostile about the overall attitude of boomers, saying, “Parents still think weddings cost $50 pp. That doesn\u2019t even cover liquor if you do an open bar. Our parents generation is really clueless why we can\u2019t afford a house or a godfather-type wedding.”<\/p>\n

My Boomer Mom Doesn’t Think Like That<\/h2>\n
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“I\u2019m so glad my boomer mom\u2019s first response was ‘don\u2019t blow a bunch of money on a wedding, go on a fantastic honeymoon’,” said one happy commenter.<\/p>\n

Love Conquers All, Even Boomer Bridezillas!<\/h2>\n
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In this captivating tale of family dynamics and wedding woes, we learn that love is the ultimate victor. Our couple may be navigating through the murky waters of parental expectations and financial limitations, but their dedication to each other remains unshaken. As they embark on their journey towards the big day, we can’t help but wonder how they’ll find the perfect balance between honoring family wishes and staying true to their hearts.<\/p>\n

What do you think?<\/h2>\n
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Now it’s your turn! Have you experienced the whirlwind of wedding planning? How did you handle the clash of expectations and budget constraints? Share your thoughts and advice in the comments below, and let’s dive into a lively discussion about love, laughter, and all the chaos weddings bring!<\/p>\n

This story was inspired by\u00a0Reddit<\/a>\u00a0<\/em>and does not necessarily reflect the views of The Budget Savvy Bride.<\/em><\/p>\n

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